Learn to embrace differences

Learn to embrace differences as a good thing and not what you need to
change in someone else.

To truly have a great relationship, there has to be mutual
appreciation of what each person brings to the relationship-and that
even includes the differences that drive us crazy!

Here are some things we’ve learned about differences: First, become
aware of your differences and don’t assume that your partner thinks
just like you think and his/her priorities are just like yours. Next,
talk about these differences and share what is important to you.
Remember to listen with an open heart and not judge. Just because
someone likes to do something in a little different way than you
doesn’t mean it isn’t the “right” way. Look at your preconceived
notions about the “right” ways to do things.

If there are conflicts about the ways in which things are done or
where the priorities are placed, we recommend that you devise a new
way of doing things. Perhaps a third way that might be even better
than the two previous ways of looking at or doing things. Turn your
attention to appreciating each other’s gifts instead of holding onto
what you think is the “right way” to do it.